La Vie boheme.

Pamela. 24. In Chicago. Embracing my inner hippie mermaid child.

I never want someone

to be able to say that I forced or coerced someone to be in a relationship with me.

Any kind of relationship. Platonic or romantic. I think hearing people say “I feel manipulated” or “I stay because I don’t know what you’ll do” is the worst. 

So many relationships around me look unhealthy and it just makes me tilt my head to the side.

The people who say they “hate” drama are always the ones mixed up in it

One of of my friends today said “There is a certain charm to your evasiveness but after a while it gets exhausting and starts to feel pretty hurtful” (not about me) and it hit me like a rock because its SO TRUE.

Like those people who purposefully wait to text back when you know they’re the kind of people who are NEVER without their phone.

Or who make you question your life in circles because they need to have it their way or no way instead of YOUR way.

Or who only make really vague plans so you’re never sure until the day of if they’re happening or not.

Or, or, or the people who make the lamest excuses ever. I’m so done with excuses. I’m either going to do something or I’m not but I am adult enough to understand that I will be accountable either way. We all have 24 hours in a day just like celebrities and authors and Beyonce.  

I just feel like no one is straight-up anymore and it drives me fucking crazy. 

/end rant.

keeper-of-the-purple-twilight:

I hate this. I hate this so fucking much. It is so offensive. This is implying that women can’t be homophobic. It also implies that only men want sex. I know so many girls who treat lesbians and bi women like crap and avoid them because they think just because she likes girls that she will flirt with her, girls treating gay men like accessories, only wanting to be our friend just because of our orientation assuming we will do stereotypical things with them, fetishizing gay and bi men (yes that DOES happen), holding signs at gay pride things with a picture of their “otp” saying “let my gays get married”, taking pictures of gay men without them knowing (that happened to me, I found it on instagram with some “repost if you love gays” post. My boyfriend wasn’t out yet and one of his clients saw it and reported him and he got fired.), females outing gay men without their consent to ‘brag’ that they know a gay man, homophobic mothers, my female teacher pointed to me and said to the class I will get AIDS when we were talking about the 1980s causing me to be bullied, the list goes on. After I came out: My mom would tell my siblings to no longer call me by my name but instead call me “queer” and “faggot”, she would beat me until she got tired of me and threw me out. Some girls fetishize gay men and treat lesbians and bi women horribly. Fetishization is NOT support. People don’t realize that.
My best friend (a straight male) has been with me through it all.
But yeah it is only straight men who are homophobic!!!

keeper-of-the-purple-twilight:

I hate this. I hate this so fucking much. It is so offensive. This is implying that women can’t be homophobic. It also implies that only men want sex. I know so many girls who treat lesbians and bi women like crap and avoid them because they think just because she likes girls that she will flirt with her, girls treating gay men like accessories, only wanting to be our friend just because of our orientation assuming we will do stereotypical things with them, fetishizing gay and bi men (yes that DOES happen), holding signs at gay pride things with a picture of their “otp” saying “let my gays get married”, taking pictures of gay men without them knowing (that happened to me, I found it on instagram with some “repost if you love gays” post. My boyfriend wasn’t out yet and one of his clients saw it and reported him and he got fired.), females outing gay men without their consent to ‘brag’ that they know a gay man, homophobic mothers, my female teacher pointed to me and said to the class I will get AIDS when we were talking about the 1980s causing me to be bullied, the list goes on. After I came out: My mom would tell my siblings to no longer call me by my name but instead call me “queer” and “faggot”, she would beat me until she got tired of me and threw me out. Some girls fetishize gay men and treat lesbians and bi women horribly. Fetishization is NOT support. People don’t realize that.

My best friend (a straight male) has been with me through it all.

But yeah it is only straight men who are homophobic!!!

(via maximumstabulosity)